My thoughts on Porn


Edit: Watch this before continuing with my post. I found it only after publishing what I wrote and it’s amazing that it mostly agrees with what I said. This video injects some much needed facts and research into my opinion discussion…


The world is obsessed with sex and porn. The internet is proof of that. There is clearly a demand for it. But is it healthy?

This post is actually just a tester to see what kind of reaction it gets. I suspect it will get inflated views for no good reason, other than the suggestive tags. Nothing I am saying here is ground-breaking but I’d like to garner a discussion about the topic. I may get a negative response from people looking for ‘more’. Sorry to disappoint. What really prompted me to write about this is something I spotted in my site stats, pictured below. It must have been due to an earlier post I made, ‘I only want to use you for sex if you want to use me too’.

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My Webpage Stats: Search Engine Terms

Goodness knows how a string of search engine keywords, ‘Tifa sex 3D’ linked to my page. Out of curiosity I had a quick search to see what it was. It’s 3D animated porn. I don’t know who that appeals to but it obviously does! It is definitely true that “if you can think of it, there is already porn of it”.

I am not going to lie and say I don’t watch porn. Porn is bad. After watching the clip linked to above I think it’s very bad! Porn-free living for me from now on! Blah blah… truth is I haven’t made a complete conclusion on how I feel about it but I will share a few thoughts on the subject.

1. In my head porn is amazing and sexy but in reality it is never fulfilling

It only leaves me feeling like I’ve just wasted time. It makes me feel that I need to rethink my life, “Why am I resorting to this?”, “Are my hobbies not entertaining enough?”. It is all ‘over’ much quicker than real sex (which makes me wonder why the clips are so long!) and just leaves me feeling dirty afterwards. That said, one tends to forget this feeling by the next time you start considering watching porn.

2. Porn is absolutely not representative of real sex but many teenagers gain their sex education from it

Porn has next to nothing to do with real sex. All the positions are exposed and open to the cameras. Real sex is much more beautiful and close. Real sex is not obscene and violent like porn would have you believe, although it is becoming more and more acceptable to practice such acts on the premise that many people are behaving this way since it is well represented by the porn industry.

3. A good committed sex-life minimises the necessity of porn

This statement is not true for everyone and I can’t say that it holds for me 100% of the time. Curiosity always has a way of tempting one every now and then. But I find that a real, loving relationship helps keep your internet history clean. For those who feel that porn is cheating… alcohol is something to watch out for, it has a way of turning all your senses down except for your sexual desires. Bad choices are made that are usually governed by your crotch instead of your brain, even within the most loyal relationship. Best not to sit in front of your laptop after a heavy night out!

4. Porn can influence the lack of a meaningful relationship if you are looking for one

From my experience single people are more likely to watch porn (I can only take myself as an example) but I may be wrong. However, instead of giving you the determination to find a suitable partner, it influences a downward spiral. It makes me feel like I should be tasting what a variety of girls have to offer. Chasing the opposite sex just to sleep with them (i.e. playing the field) has its place in life but making it your long-term lifestyle is to me a bad idea. Also, the moves those well-hung men do for the camera can easily make one feel inadequate. The airbrushed beauties that are normally selected can also make our precious real girls feel inadequate. The appreciation for real, natural beauty goes down and an impossible list of qualities required in a partner get larger and larger. I now have much more self-confidence and appreciation for unrefined beauty than I used to so these issues don’t really affect me anymore but they are a big problem for many people.

5. There are good and bad reasons to watch Porn

Although I do not have experience of this, I have read that many couples feel a benefit from watching porn together. If this is really so, I would say that this is as good a reason as any to watch porn. If it promotes real sex and sexual fantasies then I say go ahead. But if it’s starting to become a requirement I would say things have been taken too far. If you can watch a porn clip on the odd occasion, once every month or so, then I don’t see anything wrong with it either. It’s when you are stuck in a rut, aren’t getting the physical attention you deserve and feel that porn is your only option when it is no good. It is never going to be the solution to your problems, just something which may fill the obvious void you have. Porn comes with a lot of invisible baggage and is not the answer to getting your life on track.

I would say that if you can’t go two weeks without watching porn you have a problem worth correcting. I’ve had this problem before and it’s not as easy as you might think to give this habit up. I wouldn’t say I was addicted to it because as soon as something real, meaningful and substantial filled that void there was next to no desire for it. But it’s a case of fulfilling your needs in a balanced, natural way. More often than not, synthetic or virtual solutions are unsatisfactory when compared to those of nature.

6. Not all pornstars are willing; many are there against their will

The most important thing to bear in mind when considering porn is the underground activity attached to it. Many of the girls you might be watching are not there due to their own free-will. A false sense of security is perceived because it is a legal industry but human trafficking sees a large percentage of people into the porn industry. Although most might be there on their own accord, many of the girls you may have watched continuously have their lives threatened, get beaten and are made to do things regardless of what they agreed to do beforehand. They are basically raped on camera. Drugs are readily available to numb these pains and as a result many have no way out due to resulting debts. This for me is the single most off-putting factor.

STDs are also a concern. Multiple parters are rotated and condoms are often avoided. The beautiful girls you see on the internet are not as disease-free as they might look. Healthcare in the porn industry is present but is often not very effective.

 

Conclusion

There is a lot more to consider before making porn a regular occurrence in your life than you might first be aware of. It has many social side-effects which can affect the type of person you become. Please comment with any thoughts you have, whether in agreement or disagreement. I am simply an opinionated young adult who does not have all of the answers. I do consider what other people tell me and am not blindly stubborn when it comes to adapting my own thoughts and beliefs. This is an opinion piece so if you can discredit what I have said by fact, please do! I look forward to hearing from you.

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